Psychology of Desire

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#136 When Your Master Dies: MJ's Girl on Love, Loss & 21-Years of M/s Relationship

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Wed, 14 Oct 2026 12:31:46 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Kim — MJ’s Girl, who shares the story of her 21-year Master/slave relationship with Master Joe, and what happened to love, submission and identity after his death.

We explore:

What 21 years in a Master/slave relationship taught Kim about love and submission.
The difference between being a slave and a submissive.
Why this fiercely independent woman chose to give one particular man her submission.
The psychology of collaring, ownership and erotic identity.
What happens to a slave identity after the death of a Master.
How continuing bonds may help us understand carrying a BDSM relationship forward through grief.

Research article: Internalized versus externalized continuing bonds: Relations to grief, trauma, attachment, openness to experience, and posttraumatic growth.

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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#135 The Psychology of Ownership: Total Power Exchange, Erotic Identity & the Desire to Own with RednBlack

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Tue, 13 Oct 2026 12:31:19 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity.

After years within kink, Red experienced a moment that changed the direction of her erotic life: driving home from a fetish event and realising that pickup play was leaving her feeling empty. That realisation forced a different question — what did she actually desire?

We explore:

The psychology of ownership and Total Power Exchange (TPE).
Why kinky experiences can still leave us feeling erotically unfulfilled.
Red’s journey through dominance, sadism and deeper power exchange.
Leather culture, identity and the history and meaning carried through coloured hankies.
The tension between being an academic and openly kinky.
Why different people can be drawn to BDSM for very different psychological reasons.

Research article: The Psychology of Kink: A Cross-Sectional Survey Study Investigating the Roles of Sensation Seeking and Coping Style in BDSM-Related Interests.

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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#134 The Psychology of Male Dominance: Justin on Power, Masculinity & Submission

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Mon, 12 Oct 2026 12:41:19 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Justin, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore the psychology of male dominance, masculinity and consensual power exchange.

We explore:

Whether male dominance can be learned.
The difference between embodying dominance and performing it.
Justin’s four pillars of a Dominant man: self-containment, earned authority, erotic mastery and relational leadership.
Why authority must be earned before someone can responsibly hold another person’s submission.
The difference between consensual dominance and men who simply want control over women.
How BDSM and Dominant/submissive relationships can become pathways for personal transformation.

Research article: To Know Thyself: A Qualitative Exploration of Motivating Factors for BDSM and Kink Participants Who Hold Dominant Identities.

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The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Fri, 02 Oct 2026 11:26:34 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, to explore the psychology of mismatched desire, sexual compatibility and kink in relationships.

We explore:

What mismatched sexual desire looks like inside relationships.
Why telling our partner what we really want can feel extraordinarily vulnerable.
Whether an apparent “low desire” partner might simply not be having the kind of sex that activates their desire.
What BDSM and kink can teach conventional couples about negotiating desire, boundaries and consent.
The surprisingly complicated question: is sex actually a need?

Research article: Strategies for Mitigating Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Relationships

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The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#132 Kink & Neurodivergence: BDSM, Mental Health & Consent with Auntie Vice

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Thu, 01 Oct 2026 07:00:59 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated.

So much BDSM advice assumes that we can identify exactly what we want, clearly communicate our boundaries and recognise when something changes. But what happens when the way we process sensation, emotion, desire or communication works differently — or changes over time?

We explore:

How neurodivergence can shape BDSM, kink and desire.
Why BDSM’s explicit rules and negotiations may work particularly well for some neurodivergent people.
Consent and communication when someone’s capacity or mental state changes.
The impact of medication and menopause on neurodivergence, sexuality and kink.
Why BDSM can be psychologically beneficial without being therapy.
The complicated distinction between consensual BDSM pain and self-injury.

Research article: A Preliminary Investigation into Intersections of Sexual Communication in Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Disability.

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Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#131 What Your Sexual Fantasies Reveal About You: Cat Savard on Kink, CNC & Desire

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Wed, 09 Sep 2026 09:39:44 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Cat Savard, founder of Good Ember, to explore the psychology and data behind our sexual fantasies.

Link to Survey data here: https://www.goodember.com/pages/surveys

We explore:

What our sexual fantasies and kinks might reveal about us.
What Cat’s Good Ember data is revealing about people’s fantasies.
The psychology of consensual non-consent (CNC).
Why people can fantasise about experiences they don’t literally want to happen.
Sexual communication and why sharing fantasies with a partner can feel so vulnerable.
How couples can become more curious about each other erotically.

Research article: The Role of Sexual Communication in Couples’ Sexual Outcomes: A Dyadic Path Analysis.

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The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#130 Owning Your Kink: Living Authentically, Cults & Consent with Rain DeGrey

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Fri, 04 Sep 2026 08:40:03 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode Rain DeGrey takes us from coming out of the kink closet and finding herself at Kink.com just three weeks later, through her evolution into sexuality education and her belief that helping people overcome shame and “own their awesome” is what she was put here to do.

We explore:

Coming out of the kink closet and owning your erotic identity.
Why strap-ons became one of her specialist areas.
Rain’s experience of being in a cult — and why she left.
What supporting people through their final moments of life taught her about living.
Sexual shame and where we learn to judge our desires.
What two decades of exploring kink have taught Rain about pleasure and authenticity.
Why accepting our erotic selves can become part of living a more meaningful life.

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Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#129 Desire and Your Body: Judith Swack on Shame, Trauma & Sexuality

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Sun, 30 Aug 2026 07:38:20 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I explore with Judith Swack, creator of Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU), about sexual shame, trauma, desire and what she describes as experiencing sex from the body’s point of view.

We explore:

Sexual shame and its impact on desire.
The conflict between consciously wanting something and not feeling safe enough to want it.
What Judith describes as a phobia of sexual desire.
How religious and cultural messages can become attached to sexuality.
A live tapping demonstration during the episode.
How Judith works with unconscious patterns around sex.
The relationship between the mind, body and erotic desire.

Research article: Sexual Satisfaction, Sexual Attitudes, and Shame in Relation to Religiosity.

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Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#128 Why Financial Domination Turns People On: Money, Power & Kink with Harley

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Wed, 26 Aug 2026 06:32:06 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Harley to explore the psychology of financial domination — better known as findom — and the complex relationship between money, power, submission and desire.

We explore:

The psychology of financial domination and findom.
Why financial domination can feel “primal”.
Service submission and the psychology of giving.
The difference between lifestyle findom and commercial erotic labour.
Why financial domination isn’t necessarily reducible to sexual arousal.
Negotiating boundaries within financial power exchange.
The difference between financial domination and financial exploitation.

Research article: Findommes, Cybermediated Sex Work, and Rinsing.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#127 The Psychology of Pony Play: Rapidash on Transformation, Submission & Pony Space

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Sun, 23 Aug 2026 08:39:50 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Desmond, known in the kink community as Rapidash, for our first exploration into the psychology of pony play and human animal roleplay.

We explore:

What pony play actually is and why people are drawn to it.
Why pony play isn’t primarily sexual for Desmond.
How latex, masks, bridles and tack facilitate psychological transformation.
Service, devotion and the relationship between a pony and handler.
The importance of community in transforming a private fantasy into an embodied identity.
Whether entering pony space represents escaping yourself — or becoming more fully yourself.

Research article: The Psychology of Puppy Play: A Phenomenological Investigation.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#126 365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure, Desire & the Psychology of Orgasm with Annette Benedetti

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Wed, 19 Aug 2026 00:34:51 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode we explore Annette’s 365 Days of Orgasms journey — what began as an unusual personal experiment and evolved into a much deeper exploration of pleasure, desire, embodiment and sexuality.

We explore:

The psychology behind 365 consecutive days of orgasms.
What women may misunderstand about their own arousal and pleasure.
The relationship between orgasm, desire and sexual satisfaction.
How self-pleasure can affect partnered sex.
The role of embodiment, presence and psychological safety in pleasure.
Whether everyone could benefit from developing a regular pleasure practice.
Why the greatest sexual experiences may involve much more than orgasm.

Research article: Building Blocks Toward Optimal Sexuality: Constructing a Conceptual Model.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#125 Erotic Jealousy, Non-Monogamy & Your Passport 2 Pleasure with Ally Iseman

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Sat, 15 Aug 2026 23:37:43 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

I’m joined by Ally Iseman from Passport 2 Pleasure, a certified relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, pleasure advocate and speaker whose work explores how we can create more intentional relationships and more expansive erotic lives.

We explore:

Erotic jealousy and what happens when jealousy itself becomes part of desire.
Consensual non-monogamy and how to know whether you’re ready to explore it.
How to talk to a monogamous partner about opening a relationship.
The tension between security and erotic novelty.
The mistakes people commonly make when opening relationships.
Symbiosexuality—the emerging concept of attraction to the energy and dynamic between people in an existing relationship.
Why designing relationships consciously may require us to question the scripts we’ve inherited about love.

Research article: The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non-monogamous romantic relationships.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#124 The Psychology of Sacred Kink: BDSM, Spirituality & Ritual with Melissa M. Wilcox

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Tue, 11 Aug 2026 22:36:18 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I explore with scholar Melissa M. Wilcox about the fascinating intersection of BDSM, spirituality, religion, ritual and sexuality.

We explore:

Ritual, surrender and meaning within BDSM.
The historical relationship between religion, pain and self-flagellation.
What makes an experience feel sacred.
Melissa’s research process for Devotions.
Feminist Wicca, LGBTQ+ Christianity and Melissa’s academic journey.
Why human beings create rituals in the first place.

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Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#123 The Good Boy: Submission, Tantra & Latex with The Queensman

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Mon, 10 Aug 2026 02:03:48 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I sit down with The Queensman—a passionate submissive, service sub, tantra practitioner, latex fetishist, and the first Good Boy to appear on the podcast.

We explore:

What it means to identify as a Good Boy.
Mommy Domme/little dynamics and unconditional love.
Why service submission isn’t about being a pushover.
Hidden desires, shame, and self-acceptance.
How tantra transformed his BDSM journey.
Latex, caning, and his favourite kinks.
Advice for anyone afraid to explore their desires.

Research article: Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#122 The Art of Shibari: Marie Sauvage on Ritual, Presence, & Erotic Art

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Fri, 07 Aug 2026 10:00:15 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with internationally recognised Shibari artist Marie Sauvage to explore the psychology of presence, embodiment, ritual, and the artistic language of Japanese rope bondage.

We explore:

How Shibari became Marie’s artistic language.
Why rope is about communication, not just restraint.
Presence, embodiment, and interoceptive awareness.
The role of trust in Japanese rope bondage.
Why Marie sees performances as rituals rather than demonstrations.
A feminine perspective on contemporary Shibari.

Research article: Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT).

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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#121 The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Jim Benson on Masculinity, Tantra & Erotic Confidence

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Mon, 03 Aug 2026 01:24:16 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I speak with men’s sexuality coach Jim Benson to explore the psychology of masculine desire, tantra, erotic confidence, and the surprising science behind the multi-orgasmic man.

We explore:

What it means to become a multi-orgasmic man.
The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.
How tantra transforms male sexuality.
Overcoming sexual shame and performance anxiety.
Awakening the “sexual animal within”.
Why presence creates better sex.

Research article: Male multiple orgasms: a descriptive study.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#120 Healing Your Erotic Self: Big Bear Hug on Trauma, Boundaries & Belonging

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Thu, 30 Jul 2026 00:08:24 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with with Big Bear Hug to explore the psychology of trauma, boundaries, erotic identity, and the lifelong process of becoming ourselves.

We explore:

The relationship between trauma and desire.
Learning healthy boundaries inside and outside kink.
Navigating triggers within BDSM spaces.
Finding a kink-aware therapist.
Becoming a “Desire Fulfilment Entity”.
Belonging beyond labels.

Research article: Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity in the Context of Self-Concept Clarity, Sense of Coherence and Value System.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#119 Building Orgasmic Wellness: The Platform Rethinking Sexual Health Care with Mike Corner

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Mon, 27 Jul 2026 01:06:03 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Michael Corner, founder of Orgasmic Wellness, to explore the fragmented systems surrounding sexual health—and what it might take to connect people with better care.

We explore:

What sexual wellness actually includes.
Why finding the right sex therapist or practitioner is difficult.
The barriers preventing people from seeking sexual-health support.
What makes Orgasmic Wellness different from searching Google.
The future of integrated sexual health and wellbeing.
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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

#118 Inside the Mind of FetLife Founder John Baku

Emma | Psychology of Desire — Wed, 22 Jul 2026 14:32:25 GMT

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink.

We explore:

How FetLife was created.
The psychology of building online communities.
Why belonging is so important for kinky people.
The future of FetLife and BDSM education.
Community safety, moderation, and transparency.
Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time.

Research article: The Benefits of Facebook “Friends:” Social Capital and College Students’ Use of Online Social Network Sites.

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Innovative Sex Tech:

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Kiiroo here.
Luxus here.
Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

Flow supplement here.
Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think