Start Here: Exploring the Psychology of Desire

What to expect, where to begin, and how to dive deeper into your own erotic psychology.

Welcome to Psychology of Desire—a space where eroticism isn’t just explored, it’s understood.

I'm Emma, a Sexologist and Erotic Psychology researcher, and this is where I explore the stories, symbols, science, and the shadow side of desire. Whether you’re here to explore your own desire template, question cultural narratives about pleasure, or understand why desire disappears (and how to get it back)—you’re in the right place.

I firmly believe that to desire and be desired is a pivotal human experience.

And I also believe that our desires are a path to our authentic selves.

But we aren’t taught anything about desire.

(If you’d like to know more about my personal journey with desire check out my story here).

I am obsessed with exploring the Psychology of Desire and demystifying it for you.

My explorations involve in-depth essays, original research, deep dive Psychology Case Files and hosting The Erotic Realm—a confessional-style podcast where guests anonymously unpack the psychology behind their darker desires.

No matter your flavour or interest — Your desires are welcome here.

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Which subscription is best for you?

Free Subscription: Receive The Erotic Realm podcast every Tuesday straight to your inbox, select essays, research surveys, and notes.

Paid Subscription: Everything in the Free Subscription + Co-creating research surveys at the forefront of erotic psychology, Premium Psychology of Desire Case Files, huge discounts on courses (last one was free!), behind-the-scenes reflections AND knowing that you are contributing to novel, independent research.

• As a thank you for becoming a paid subscriber you’ll receive a FREE gift — The Desire Threshold: A reflective entryway into the architecture of your erotic psyche so you can begin exploring your desire right away!

Desire Coaching Subscription: Receive all of the above AND a 1:1 Deep Dive Desire coaching session with Emma ($50 off!). More details here about coaching here.

Not sure where to begin?

Start with one of these reader favourites:

• Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think. Unpacking the Myths and Psychology Behind Sexual Desire

• The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

• The Jung of Sex : The Alchemy of Libido | How Libido Fuels Your Desires, Creativity, and Power

• Podcast: #25 The Psychology of Erotica: Aurore on Writing Desire, Healing Shame & Feminist Submission

Or perhaps you want to be part of original research?

• Help Map the Landscape of your Erotic Dreams and Fantasies in the Deep Desire Project.

• Explore how we define and think about the female orgasm in the Her Climax Code Project.

What readers of Psychology of Desire are saying:

"I receive value from every post and this work is so important! Thank you!"

“Emma is a fellow sex-nerd on a mission to demystify the nature of desire, and her newsletter is packed with relatable, science-backed insights that make you rethink everything you thought you knew about eroticism. She breaks down complex ideas in a way that’s engaging, thought-provoking, and refreshingly real. If you’ve ever wondered why you want what you want—or why desire can feel so complicated—Emma’s work will give you the tools to understand yourself on a whole new level. Highly recommend!”

“What they didn't teach you about desire!”

We all deserve a life where we own and live our desires.

Thanks for being here and creating a home for desire with me.

Emma — The Voice of Desire Psychology

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm Podcast

“Desire isn’t a problem to solve. It’s a language to decode.”