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#56 Why I Built The Erotic Realm: Turning 40 & the Psychology of Desire with M
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#56 Why I Built The Erotic Realm: Turning 40 & the Psychology of Desire with M

What happens when erotic curiosity, psychology, and lived experience collide?

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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.


In this special solo episode, M reflects on turning 40 and one year of The Erotic Realm Podcast — sharing the personal, psychological, and erotic motivations behind creating a platform devoted to desire, power, and the erotic mind.

In this episode, we explore:

  • Why desire is as unique as personality.

  • How power and eroticism shape identity across a lifetime.

  • Midlife as a psychological turning point, not a crisis.

  • What listening to hundreds of erotic stories has revealed.

  • Autism, kink, and why structure can feel safer than spontaneity.

  • How M became a Sexologist.

  • What’s next for The Erotic Realm and the Psychology of Desire.

Research article: “Comforting, Reassuring, and…Hot”: A Qualitative Exploration of Engaging in Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and (Sado)masochism and Kink from the Perspective of Autistic Adults.

This episode is both a celebration and a thesis — a reflection on what the first year of The Erotic Realm has taught me, and where the psychology of desire is heading next.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm


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And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

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  3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

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