The Jungian angle is especially compelling. If individuation is about integrating the unconscious and conscious, then sexuality is one of the most potent avenues for self-discovery. Society often teaches us to repress or externalize desire, but this post makes a compelling case for embracing it—not to act on every impulse, but to understand what those impulses reveal.
I’m curious—how do you see this approach helping people who feel disconnected from their sexuality? Would love to hear thoughts on how someone can begin integrating their erotic energy in a world that often shames it.
Thank you for an interesting column. Permit me to make a couple of comments:
(1) << I'd argue the theme of our desires are generally unchanging and pervasive through most of our lives. >>
Perhaps you can develop this idea more fully. What do you mean by "the theme of our desires"? For example, many men in their late teens/early twenties are most concerned with their own pleasures, yet the same men may be more interested in pleasing a partner as they get older. Similarly, a masochist may "switch" and become a sadist.
Of course, one might argue that the "theme of [the] desires" is orgasm (in the first situation) and pain (in the second), but I am somewhat confused about what you mean.
(2) << And to be clear: I’m not talking about acting on every desire. // I’m talking about the power of knowing what those desires are. >>
I agree completely. We may detest a given person (e.g., a political figure) and wish ill things upon him/her, yet most rational people would not act upon any violent impulses. Moreover, we may indeed feel an empowerment as we begin to know more about our desires and the psychological factors that make them so attractive to us. [This is true of sexual and non-sexual desires.]
Again, gratitude for this post, and I am sure I am but one of many who awaits the next.
1 - I agree, I will be developing this idea more fully as I reveal more of my erotic model which I am working on behind the scenes. It is coming together rather nicely at the moment.
The Jungian angle is especially compelling. If individuation is about integrating the unconscious and conscious, then sexuality is one of the most potent avenues for self-discovery. Society often teaches us to repress or externalize desire, but this post makes a compelling case for embracing it—not to act on every impulse, but to understand what those impulses reveal.
I’m curious—how do you see this approach helping people who feel disconnected from their sexuality? Would love to hear thoughts on how someone can begin integrating their erotic energy in a world that often shames it.
Thanks I'm glad it resonated with you!
How do I see this approach helping people? It is integrated in the erotic model of desire that I am creating, so stay tuned!
Thanks Emma. This is something I had long intuited. But you give it words!
that's really kind, thank you!
Thank you for an interesting column. Permit me to make a couple of comments:
(1) << I'd argue the theme of our desires are generally unchanging and pervasive through most of our lives. >>
Perhaps you can develop this idea more fully. What do you mean by "the theme of our desires"? For example, many men in their late teens/early twenties are most concerned with their own pleasures, yet the same men may be more interested in pleasing a partner as they get older. Similarly, a masochist may "switch" and become a sadist.
Of course, one might argue that the "theme of [the] desires" is orgasm (in the first situation) and pain (in the second), but I am somewhat confused about what you mean.
(2) << And to be clear: I’m not talking about acting on every desire. // I’m talking about the power of knowing what those desires are. >>
I agree completely. We may detest a given person (e.g., a political figure) and wish ill things upon him/her, yet most rational people would not act upon any violent impulses. Moreover, we may indeed feel an empowerment as we begin to know more about our desires and the psychological factors that make them so attractive to us. [This is true of sexual and non-sexual desires.]
Again, gratitude for this post, and I am sure I am but one of many who awaits the next.
Thanks Lenny!
1 - I agree, I will be developing this idea more fully as I reveal more of my erotic model which I am working on behind the scenes. It is coming together rather nicely at the moment.
You have such a lovely voice M. Thanks for sharing ❤️🐺
aww thanks for listening!