What if your desire style doesn’t fit the old models?
Break the myth. Activate your desire.
Dear Desire Mappers
You might’ve noticed I’ve been a little quieter than usual here on Substack lately, and there’s good reason.
Here’s everything I’ve been up to (including a poll where you’ll help me decide what to write about next AND an invite to an exclusive writing community for you!).
I’ve been deep behind the scenes, building something I’ve never seen done before—a new framework for understanding sexual desire that doesn’t pathologise you, shame you, or try to fix you.
My days have consisted of waking up, writing, yoga, writing, walking and then you guessed it- writing again!
What I am creating is based on everything I’ve learned as a Jungian inspired Sexologist, psychophysiology researcher, desire coach and curious human navigating the mystery of erotic life.
And now, I’m ready to share the two courses I’ve been working on behind the scenes.
Activate Your Desire
A self paced mini course that breaks the old models—and shows you how your desire actually works.
If you’ve ever been told you have “low libido,” or that you’re “just responsive,” or that your partner’s spontaneous arousal is “more normal” than yours...
You’ve been fed a broken story.
Most people have never been taught that desire comes in different styles of activation—and that yours might just be wired differently to your partner.
In this course you’ll learn:
The Desire Activation Model™
Forget the Spontaneous vs. Responsive binary.
Meet the revolutionary new desire styles that break the myths of desire.A clear path to turn your desire back on
Each style gets a tailored technique you can try right away whether you’re turned off, overwhelmed, or yearning to reconnect.Why your blocks are actually keys
Shame. Disconnection. Mismatch.They’re not because you’re broke, they are misunderstood signals from a deeper part of your erotic self.
How to communicate your style to your partner
Easy to remember communication techniques that allow you to activate your desire with your partner.
And more…
This course is for you if…
You’ve ever felt like your desire is “broken”
You’re confused by how your desire works (or doesn’t)
You want a clear, elegant framework for understanding your erotic mind
You’re tired of models that don’t match your lived experience
This is your invitation to stop pathologising your desire—and start activating it, on your own terms.
Presale: Only $27 until launch day then the price will go up!
👉 Click here to access the presale
And coming soon...
Decode Your Desires
This is my signature deep dive course, where we explore:
Fantasy, identity, and erotic imprinting
Shadow integration and symbolic desire
Your full erotic architecture
You’ll get early access as a subscriber—just $97 during the presale period (reg. $197!).
👉 Click here to access the presale of this signature course
Thanks to all of those who have already jumped in and grabbed this course!
Announcing a New Writing Series!:
The Psychology of Desire: Case Files
This is a recurring series where I investigate the hidden mechanics of desire — one case at a time.
Each file explores a specific kink, pattern, fantasy, or erotic question through the lens of psychological theory, symbolic meaning, and lived human experience.
Sometimes the case is cultural (Why are foot fetishes so common?).
Sometimes personal (What happens when your partner no longer wants to be touched?).
And sometimes philosophical (Can anything be eroticised?).
You’ll find reflections, survey data, research insights, and the kind of nuanced thinking that doesn’t reduce desire to dopamine or shame — but asks what it means.
This is not a clinical casebook.
It’s an archive of erotic psychology in motion.
The first file drops soon.
I’m super excited to get very nerdy about these topics!
If you’ve ever wanted to understand the why beneath the want — you’ll love the series!
Feel free to let me know what topics you’d like covered in the comments if you have a desire you would like explore that isn’t mentioned in the polls.
The Desire Den is now open!
The Desire Den is a private Discord space for writers, thinkers, and seekers exploring the psychology of desire.
We’ll gather around case files, writing prompts, and live sessions where we write together in real time!
Come and join me in the Desire Den!
I’m grateful for your patience as I’ve been quietly building the Psychology of Desire Realm.
I’m having so much fun exploring with you all!
If you have any suggestions about what you’d like to see more of here at the Psychology of Desire, feel free to let me know in the comments.
Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm podcast
Want to dive deeper into your desires with me personally? I offer 1:1 Coaching via application. Find out more here.
p.s Want to explore my writing?
What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires
My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed
The Secret Life of Your Desire
Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.
What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?
The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think
Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?
And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:
p.p.s Want to check out my projects?
I guess it’s part of taboo temptations but how about cross dressing?