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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.
In this episode I’m joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves to explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern sexuality: compulsive sexual behaviour.
Rather than framing sexual compulsivity as “sex addiction,” Silva’s work examines how sexuality can become intertwined with emotional regulation, identity, shame, and relational needs.
We explore:
Why many sexologists reject the “sex addiction” narrative.
How shame sustains compulsive sexual cycles.
The difference between high desire and genuine compulsivity.
Trauma, EMDR therapy, and erotic safety.
What sexual integration actually looks like in therapy.
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In this episode I’m joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves to explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern sexuality: compulsive sexual behaviour.
Rather than framing sexual compulsivity as “sex addiction,” Silva’s work examines how sexuality can become intertwined with emotional regulation, identity, shame, and relational needs.
We explore:
Why many sexologists reject the “sex addiction” narrative.
How shame sustains compulsive sexual cycles.
The difference between high desire and genuine compulsivity.
Trauma, EMDR therapy, and erotic safety.
What sexual integration actually looks like in therapy.
