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#137 Can You Keep Desire Alive? Female Desire, Sex & Long-Term Relationships with Caroline Hood
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#137 Can You Keep Desire Alive? Female Desire, Sex & Long-Term Relationships with Caroline Hood

Does desire really die in long-term relationships — or are we misunderstanding what happens to it?

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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.


In this episode I’m joined by sex therapist and clinical social worker Caroline Hood to explore female desire, sex and intimacy in long-term relationships.

We explore:

  • Why sexual desire can change in long-term relationships without disappearing.

  • Whether “low desire” can actually be a logical response to stress, caregiving, resentment and exhaustion.

  • The biggest myths we’ve inherited about female desire and spontaneous desire.

  • What responsive desire gets right — and where we’ve become too rigid with the concept.

  • How couples can cultivate eroticism, intimacy and desire when life never seems to calm down.

Research article: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships: A Systematic Review and Conceptual Model

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Stay perverted,

Emma

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