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#13 Smart Ass Masochist: Erotic Psychology, Pain & Playful Defiance
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#13 Smart Ass Masochist: Erotic Psychology, Pain & Playful Defiance

What does it mean to love the fight AND the surrender?

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In this raw and powerful episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with Tanya, a solo polyamorous kinkster, power bottom, smart ass masochist, brat, and primal prey living her truth 24/7. From early fantasies to full embodiment, Tanya shares her journey of self-discovery through impact play, exhibitionism, and high intensity power dynamics.

We explore:

  • The psychology of pain as pleasure, and how endorphins can shift perception

  • Exhibitionism as liberation, and what it reveals about self-acceptance

  • The delicate dance of fear, trust, and psychological safety in BDSM scenes

  • How brattiness and resistance can intensify surrender

  • and more!

Research paper :

⁠Physical Pain as Pleasure: A Theoretical Perspective⁠

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* please note at the request of the guest her voice has been changed to protect her anonymity*

M

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