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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.
In this episode I’m joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity.
After years within kink, Red experienced a moment that changed the direction of her erotic life: driving home from a fetish event and realising that pickup play was leaving her feeling empty. That realisation forced a different question — what did she actually desire?
We explore:
The psychology of ownership and Total Power Exchange (TPE).
Why kinky experiences can still leave us feeling erotically unfulfilled.
Red’s journey through dominance, sadism and deeper power exchange.
Leather culture, identity and the history and meaning carried through coloured hankies.
The tension between being an academic and openly kinky.
Why different people can be drawn to BDSM for very different psychological reasons.
Research article: The Psychology of Kink: A Cross-Sectional Survey Study Investigating the Roles of Sensation Seeking and Coping Style in BDSM-Related Interests.
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Stay perverted,
Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm
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p.s Want to explore my writing?
The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:
The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1
The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3
Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.
Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?
My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed
The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams
The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1
What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires
The Secret Life of Your Desire
Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.
What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?
The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think
Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?
And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:
