Psychology of Desire
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#108 The Kink Curious Wife: Marriage, Desire & Erotic Self-Discovery with J
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#108 The Kink Curious Wife: Marriage, Desire & Erotic Self-Discovery with J

What happens when curiosity about other people's desires leads you to discover your own?

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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.


In this episode I sit down with J to explore a journey that began with curiosity and evolved into a deeper understanding of kink, intimacy, and erotic identity. Together we discuss her experiences in sex work, her fascination with the psychology of desire, and how joining FetLife to better understand other people’s kinks ultimately helped her discover parts of herself she hadn’t fully recognised.

We explore:

  • Kink curiosity and self-discovery.

  • Introducing a partner to BDSM.

  • Marriage and erotic exploration.

  • Sex work and the psychology of desire.

  • Ownership dynamics and intimacy.

  • Women’s pathways into kink.

Research book: Women and Kink.


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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm


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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

  1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

  2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

  3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

  1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

  2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

  3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

  4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

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