Psychology of Desire: Case Files

Welcome to the Psychology of Desire: Case Files — a series where I dissect the hidden logic behind our most curious turn ons and erotic fixations.

In this series we dare to go beyond the surface of eroticism and ask questions such as:

Why feet?
Why pain?
Why power, ritual, age gaps, control, fabric, voices, rituals, hands, filth, purity, gender, transgression…?

As a Jungian Sexologist and psychophysiological researcher, I’ve spent years exploring how our desires are shaped.

I’ve discovered that our desires are shaped by so many things—not just by brain wiring or hormones—but by symbols, stories, culture, memory, and the unconscious…just to name a few.

I created the Psychology of Desire because I am endlessly fascinated by how unique and complex each person’s eroticism is.

Sure there may be patterns in eroticism but how these patterns show up in each person is never the same.

Take the guests I have interviewed on The Erotic Realm for example- at the end of the conversation I ask them a complex question with a simple answer: if you were to sum up your sexuality in just one word in this moment what word would that be?

And guess what?

So far each guest has used a different word.

These Case Files are my attempt to break down the complex nature of eroticism into easy to explore stories.

I’m not here to pathologise desire.

I’m here to decode it.

To treat each desire as a map—not a mistake.

And perhaps to show that even your strangest turn on makes perfect psychological sense.

These case files aren’t just curiosities.

They’re keys to understanding and humanising desire.

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Emma

The Voice of Desire Psychology
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm podcast