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#05 20 Years of Monogamy… Then Everything Changed: Stephen's Story
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#05 20 Years of Monogamy… Then Everything Changed: Stephen's Story

What happens when you break free from the expectations of traditional relationships to fully embrace your authentic sexuality?

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In this episode of I sit down with Stephen, a 36-year-old sadomasochistic switch who spent 20 years in monogamous relationships before discovering his true desires.

Now living 24/7 in a polyamorous M/s dynamic, he shares how BDSM transformed his understanding of power, intimacy, and self-acceptance.

We discuss:

  • The turning point after 20 years of monogamy and the path to self-discovery

  • The psychology of power dynamics in BDSM and everyday life

  • How pain enhances intimacy and the mental health benefits of kink

  • Navigating polyamory and the complexities of a multi-partner household

Research Paper: Psychological Characteristics of BDSM Practitioners

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