#149 The Intersex Experience: Gender, Desire & Life Beyond the Binary with Papa Bear
What if everything you’ve been taught about male and female bodies represents only part of the extraordinary diversity of human biology?
The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.
In this episode I’m joined by Papa Bear, the first intersex guest on the podcast, to explore what it means to be intersex, gender identity, biological sex diversity, sexuality and kink.
We explore:
What it means to be intersex: Understanding intersex variations and the diversity of biological sex characteristics.
Discovering an intersex identity: Bear’s personal journey of self-understanding and what changed after learning about their body.
Gender identity beyond the binary: The relationship between being intersex, gender expression and nonbinary identity.
Intersex experiences in healthcare: Medical trauma, bodily autonomy, informed consent and the importance of affirming care.
Kink and erotic identity: Bear’s favourite kinks, including axillism, an attraction to armpits that can involve natural body scent.
Sexual self-discovery: How personal experiences, erotic interests and identity can evolve throughout our lives.
Research article: Intersex People’s Perspectives on Affirming Healthcare Practices: A Qualitative Study.
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Stay perverted,
Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm
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