The Erotic Realm podcast explores the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality with the mission to humanise kinksters. How I distribute the podcast has recently changed- to listen to the latest episode please click play on the Apple Podcasts, Spotify or webplayer link below.
We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.
Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.
You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.
Welcome to Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL.
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In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Ancilla, a 33-year-old polyamorous writer, masochist, and slave who has dedicated her life to exploring power exchange, pain, and the art of kink education. Ancilla’s journey intersects with her roles as a emotional masochist, and educator, creating a deeply personal and transformative story.
We discuss:
The strength in submission and what it means to her as a slave.
The psychology of pain and how masochism connects to altered states and self-discovery.
Her groundbreaking Sextbook Initiative and its mission to make kink education accessible and actionable.
Balancing feminism and masochism in the kink world.
And much more...
Research article: No Pain, No Gain?: Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts.
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Stay perverted,
Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm
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The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams
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What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires
The Secret Life of Your Desire
Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.
What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?
The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think
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