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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.
In this thematic episode, The Erotic Realm explores the second gendered arc to emerge from its first year of conversations: men rethinking dominance, vulnerability, and erotic leadership in a culture that often mistakes sensitivity or submission for weakness.
Drawing on episodes with romantic Dominants, queer sadists, male submissives, and emotionally devoted partners, this episode examines masculinity as an ethical and erotic practice — one that includes authority and surrender.
Male guests speak openly about redefining dominance as responsibility, submission as devotion, and vulnerability as strength — pushing back against cultural narratives that flatten masculinity into performance or aggression.
Following The Feminist Submissive, this episode completes the gendered inquiry within the wider thematic series. Together, these arcs reveal that the erotic psyche is not divided by gender — but by how we relate to power, trust, and care.
Dominance as stewardship, not entitlement.
Male submission and vulnerability beyond weakness narratives.
Challenging performative and “toxic” masculinity models.
Reflections from the first year of The Erotic Realm.
Guest 1: #26 Healthy Masculinity & Queer Dominance: Biker Bear on Sadism, Power & Play
Guest 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual Orientation
Guest 3: #40 The Humiliated Devotee: Petitmortician on Cuckolding, Worship & the Psychology of Submission.
Guest 4: #24 The Romantic Master: Arcane on Dominance & Devotion in a 24/7 M/s Bond (Part 2 of 2)
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