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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.
In this episode of The Erotic Realm, Kinkerbell joins M to explore the psychology of desire, power, and erotic trust, focusing on non-degrading submission, clear boundaries, and nervous system safety.
Rather than framing submission as identity or ideology, this conversation centres on how safety creates desire — and why surrender only works when consent is embodied, not just verbal.
In this episode, we explore:
• The psychology of safe surrender and erotic trust
• How boundaries create freedom in power exchange
• Submission without degradation or self-erasure
• Trauma-informed intimacy and nervous system cues
• Erotic writing as emotional regulation
• Desire evolving later in life
Research article: Feminist SM: A contradiction in terms or a way of challenging traditional gendered dynamics through sexual practice?
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Stay perverted,
Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm
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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:
The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1
The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3
My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed
The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams
The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1
What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires
The Secret Life of Your Desire
Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.
What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?
The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think
Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?
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