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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.
In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated.
So much BDSM advice assumes that we can identify exactly what we want, clearly communicate our boundaries and recognise when something changes. But what happens when the way we process sensation, emotion, desire or communication works differently — or changes over time?
We explore:
How neurodivergence can shape BDSM, kink and desire.
Why BDSM’s explicit rules and negotiations may work particularly well for some neurodivergent people.
Consent and communication when someone’s capacity or mental state changes.
The impact of medication and menopause on neurodivergence, sexuality and kink.
Why BDSM can be psychologically beneficial without being therapy.
The complicated distinction between consensual BDSM pain and self-injury.
Research article: A Preliminary Investigation into Intersections of Sexual Communication in Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Disability.
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Thanks for listening!
Stay perverted,
Emma
Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm
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p.s Want to explore my writing?
The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:
The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1
The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3
Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.
Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?
My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed
The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams
The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1
What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires
The Secret Life of Your Desire
Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.
What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?
The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think
Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?
And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:
