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#98 Born Kinky? Submission, Trust & Erotic Freedom with Alixx Amour
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#98 Born Kinky? Submission, Trust & Erotic Freedom with Alixx Amour

What happens when submission isn’t about giving up power - but finding freedom through it?

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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.


In this episode I’m joined by Alixx Amour to explore a question that has fascinated me for years: Are some people born kinky? We talk about early awareness of submissive desire, the psychology of trust, sexual agency in BDSM, and whether kink can feel less like something learned and more like something recognised.

We explore:

  • Are some people born kinky?

  • Submission as freedom rather than weakness.

  • Trust, TPE and red flags in power exchange.

  • What filming for Kink.com revealed about fantasy vs reality.

  • Erotic belonging, community and finding your people.

Research article: From Fantasy to Communication: BDSM Engagement, Sexual Experience Breadth, and Pleasure Deservingness Among College Women.


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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm


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The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

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