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#104 The Rope Dominant: Shibari, Power & the Psychology of Surrender with Mark DeViate
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#104 The Rope Dominant: Shibari, Power & the Psychology of Surrender with Mark DeViate

Why do some people describe rope as a pathway into trust, presence, and altered states of consciousness?

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The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.


In this episode I chat with Mark DeViate — Dominant, rope practitioner, polyamorous relationship veteran, and long-time member of the BDSM community, to explore the psychology of surrender, ethical dominance, and the transformative potential of connection-based kink.

We explore:

• The psychology of ethical dominance.

• Shibari, rope bondage, and surrender.

• Topspace, flow states, and altered consciousness.

• Performance-based kink vs connection-based kink.

• Long-term polyamory and relationship longevity.

Research article: The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic Review


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